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All About Will - Scary Mommy: An honest look at motherhood

Debi, author of Who Says Eight is Enough,is a SAHM to nine children ranging from 5 teenagers to four year old twins. She writes about ?normal? life, living with autism, surviving infidelity and remaining happy, sane and honest through it all.

I am the mom of 9 kids, including a set of twins, my youngest two.

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My daughter, Emma, is four going on sixteen?

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and her brother, Will, is four going on 18 months.

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Will has autism. Not Asperger?s, not PDD-NOS, but classic autism.

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The day he was diagnosed, I was devastated. It didn?t necessarily come as a surprise, but it was putting a stamp on it and confirming my fears? he would never be the same as his sister.

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Ok, and I know it?s not fair to compare kids. I had had seven other kids before them, so trust me when I say that I know not all kids are the same, but it was still very sad to know my twins would never really be twins.

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I guess the ?funny? thing about that is, up until Will was diagnosed, I was never one of those moms who thought having twins was ?cool?. I had grown up with two sets of twin sisters and was so over the whole twin thing, but somehow, Will?s diagnosis changed that for me and suddenly I cared that they would never reach their milestones at the same time, they would never share a secret language that no one else understood, and I thought they would never share a bond that no one else could break.

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Of course, years later, I know better.

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When Will was 2 and just being diagnosed I cringed at the idea of telling people he had autism; I hated just saying the word. I sunk inside myself and my marriage fell apart. Badly. I prayed no one noticed, but everyone did and it was hard not to when Emma was so smiley and chatty and walking and Will? wasn?t.

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But now almost 3 years since he was diagnosed, it?s life and it does go on, and happily, I might add.

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Will has autism, but autism does not have Will.

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There are certainly days where it?s completely obvious to anyone observing my family that Will is ?different? and there are very rare days when anyone believes me when I say he and his sister are twins. Emma is not only a completely ?normal? 4 1/2 year old little girl, but she is actually above average in speech and quite possibly the bossiest little girl I have ever known ;)

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Will, on the other hand, is very delayed in his speech & development and tends to spend time ?playing? by himself (if we let him), but he is also the happiest child I have ever seen. There is seriously not a single thing in this world that makes him unhappy, aside from us singing ?Happy Birthday? (don?t ask! I have NO clue.).

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I used to be afraid of his diagnosis.

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I thought it would consume me and our family.

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I thought it would take away from his relationship with his sister.

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Instead, his diagnosis has given me a better understanding of unconditional love and it has saved my family, saved my marriage and brought me closer to my faith.

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And, as for his sister, she is his protector.

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She is his biggest fan,

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and he is her ?birthday twin?,

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her Will.

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Source: http://www.scarymommy.com/all-about-will/

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